Why men will always return to their ex for sex

Ayiswa Issa Monday, 3 August 2015 - 10:24am Life

Following the brutal murder of Kampala stylist Johnnie Ahimbisibwe at popular night spot Ange Nior over a fight for a girl, we look at why it is bad to return to an ex for sex.

We all know going back to your ex for anything at all including sex is a bad idea. As such, we bring to you reasons why men return to their exes for sex and why it is an entirely bad idea for men and women to do so.

You’re familiar

The fact that you know them so well and you have absolutely no reason whatsoever to impress them, figure out the things they like or go ballistic with their sexual fantasies makes it easier to have uncomplicated sex with your ex. These things hold true for both of you as being with a familiar body you know in and out is appealing even though you have it at the back of your mind that it won’t last. Having sex with your ex will surely not make you get over them, neither will it help you start a fresh relationship.

You’re available

Well, it’s obvious that the exis always available and if anyone is looking for a quick lay, the exis the first point of call. The ideal thing to do is to prevent compromising situations such as spending private moments with them, having more drinks than you can take or answering their late night calls.

They want closure

A couple of times, you’d hear them say, “Just one last time, then I’ll be over you.” A Lot of girls in the excategory would probably have heard this excuse time and time again. The simple truth is that it is very rare for sex to make you realise that the two of you aren’t meant to be together or make you feel like it is “really over” as sex is bound to bring the two of you closer. It’s never really over if you’re having sex, simply because, you’re having sex.

He wants to win you back

Truth is a man may actually want to have sex with his ex because he wants her back. Sex releases a lot of powerful emotions which can be difficult to refuse. Hugging alone releases a lot of chemical reactions that elucidates bonding, talk more of naked sexual romps. Thus, his plan with having sex with an ex could be to get back in the game. If you aren’t interested, stay away from sex with the ex.

He wants a friend with benefits

Ready for more truth? The friends with benefits conundrum never wanes. It is difficult to have a casual sexual relationship with your ex. The truth is having a friends with benefits relationship with your ex will only stop you from moving on with your life as it may prevent you from dating other people as you may subconsciously feel you still have a boyfriendeven though he’s nothing like what you want.

He misses you

This might sound so sweet, but it is definitely not a good reason to jump in bed with him. It is normal to miss someone and it is part of the grieving and recovery process of getting over an ex. If you end up having sex with them again, the process begins all over again.

    Adapted from National

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