Each step below is equally as important as the next and helps give you the upper hand at each point during every interaction you have. You’re basically leading her into the mindset of being back with you.
The first step is for guys are feeling as though things are going wrong and she’s not that into you anymore… but if you’re at the point where she’s already left you and she’s officially your ex girlfriend then you can move to step 3.
Ditch her firstYep you heard me and no I’m not crazy. Hear me out.When you feel things are going wrong, you should be the one who says “lets just be friends, it’s not working out”. This will immediately put you in control of the whole situation and spark feelings of loss on her side.
Leave it for at least two weeksYou leave it for 2 weeks so that she has plenty of time to realise what she’s missing, how much she loves you and what she can do to get you back. In this time frame you need to carry on living exactly the way you do.If she texts you, reply casually. If you see her randomly, be cool and act as if you have someplace to be. Don’t contact her on Facebook, tweet her or text message her.Keep her thinking. That’s the key, she’s going to be mentally rehearsing you over and over in her mind which is a good thing.
ReinitiateYou reinitiate contact saying that you hope she is well and saying that now the emotion has cooled, it’d be good to keep in touch as friends.She will feel a rush of excitement and feel all giddy again. The feelings of when she went on the very first dates with you will be coming back. This is what you want.
Casual contactOver the next few weeks, you have some casual contact and then arrange a non-romantic date like a coffee in the middle of the day.Keep the conversation light and don’t discuss anything to do with the relationship, how it ended or anything that could ruin what you’ve built up.
Meet as friendsWhen you meet, you’re friendly and polite but you treat her just like a friend. You cut things short and seem like you have moved on and all is cool.This will anger her, make her want you more and feel like she has lost you.
Rinse and repeatRepeat a few times over several weeks. Allude to you having dates by talking about a new film you saw at the cinema, or an Italian restaurant you have been to. You don’t say who with, but it’ll get her to thinking about you and will spark jealousy/intrigue.
Meet and closeAfter weeks/months of laying down the groundwork between you both, meet her at night, have some drinks, and bust a move.Kiss her, then say “we shouldn’t do this, we should just be friends, this is a mistake” and things like that but keep continuing.You come up with the objections so that she will take the opposing view and say that it’s fine.Then depending on how you want to play it, you can either take her back that night and have make-up sex or you can leave her wanting EVEN MORE and say that you should meet again soon.The danger with leaving things too long is that she could potentially lose interest and start seeing other guys, so play it right and everything should be fine dude.
That's it broI never said getting your ex girlfriend back would be easy… but if you want her, then you know exactly what to do now. So go do it!If you want some more advanced tips on getting back with the ex, then I strongly suggest you check out my friends awesome video on rewinding an entire relationship.As ever, if you have any questions about how to get your ex girlfriend back… just post them below and I’ll do my best to answer them.